Filth — no. And a big, consuming mess is depressing. However, a little mess here and there is a sign of a life well lived. Clearly we must have been preoccupied with something fascinating, or at the very least, pressing, or there would be no mess. No apology needed.
“Things were a little untidy, but what did that matter? It was possible to become the slave of things; possible to miss life in preparation for living.” ― Elizabeth von Arnim
Genteel meaningful messes
Genteel meaningful messes are largely a cacophony of books, magazine, papers, the remnants of your beverage, probably wine, coffee or tea, and maybe some clementine peels. It may not be neat, but you do present as a person who clearly loves learning and exploring the written world. Just add fresh flowers and your genteel mess is elevated to the level of a still life painting.
Exuberant meaningful messes
Exuberant meaningful messes stem from explosions of creativity. No explanation needed when you are creating a masterpiece. Genius is often expulsive. Rock drumming comes to mind. And splashing paint onto huge canvases. And dancing maniacally. And cooking deviously.
Hot meaningful messes
Hot meaningful messes are tributes to having taken monumental risks, and failing monumentally. Forward motion requires trying and failing. You should be rewarded for your courage. Keep moving forward.
Work-in-progress meaningful messes
Work-in-progress messes can be untidy, but worthwhile. Sometimes you have to make things dirtier before you can make them cleaner. Just don’t let the mess linger too long, or it becomes a drag on one’s peace of mind. In fact, it may be best if you only dump the drawer when you can organize the stuff and re-home it right away.
Adorable meaningful messes
A boyfriend’s failed baking attempt in a flour strewn kitchen is a cute meaningful mess. Just make him clean it up afterwards. Doggie messes can be cute too. Just snap a photo for Facebook and then get a broom.
Troublesome meaningful messes are the domain of dirty kitchens and dirty bathrooms. This is a form of self harm. Love yourself instead. You deserve a little spa to prepare for your day, and a clean, orderly kitchen to prepare your healthy, luxurious, little meals, or your big, life-loving, fam-feeding meals. Clean bathrooms and kitchens are worthy of our time.Our kitchens and bathrooms should be worthy of us.
Also, if clutter in ANY room is so prevalent that we can’t find anything, that is just masochistic. Avoid.
Meaningful messes in parting
Maybe embracing the quirkiness and humanity of our messes can help us to vanquish them kindly, without self-recrimination. We deserve that. Usually.